Express Yourself – Intro

Self – Expression: the expression of one’s feelings, thoughts, or ideas, especially in writing, art, music, or dance.

Without being tainted with the burden of living, its responsibilities and a thousand manuals handed over by adults in informative years; children and animals already know the meaning of self – expression. They communicate their needs creatively through words, paintings, emotions, reactions, and play naturally from the moment they are born when they need milk or a change in diaper. They will cry and their degree of bawling will vary according to the adult response to their communication. Creatively modifying and changing their behaviour to the adult communicating back to them as a response.

However, over the years, we condition ourselves to action and response according to varied stimuli and rules are regulations we receive based on our environmental, societal and other boundaries. So, are these restrictions important, or do they curb our growth potential? Can they become a hindrance to living a full life and therefore should we then revolt and demand the freedom of full expression; or instead find a middle path where we are able to utilise the tools and restrictions available in our society to help us find expression and not treat it as a handicap.

As adults are we providing our children and us the right guidance and environment for self-expression? How would we find the right environment in the first place? Most importantly, why do we want to self express?

This 5 Part Article Series explores the importance of self-expressions, challenges faced in expressing oneself, tools for self expressions and the spiritual, assisting each other and using self – expression as an effective tool for communication, how creativity assists self expression, and emotional need to express oneself when you are a child or teen.

Read: Self Expression – Why Express?? on 11th March, 2020

Spicy Tea

kashmiri-kahwa-tea-500x500There are a few equipments which have changed for a Writer. They do need writing material, a vivid imagination and something to feed it. While furiously weaving stories; there comes moments when we need something which creates relief between thinking, writing and consolidating. In the deep dark nights its always either a little Scotch, Whiskey, Coca Cola (for Stephen King), Turmeric Milk, Coffee and in my case a cup of Spicy Tea. Two cups will relieve confusion and create an ambience of support for you in those dark endless night times when the mind is searching for clues, words, and cover ups.

Then, when morning happens, my mother realising I was up all night… peeps into my room and asks, “you want a cup of tea.” I say, “naa, its okay,” She asks “are you sure, looks like you need one“. You say “I’m Okay”. She says, “I’m making it for myself, so I could make an extra cup.” Then I say, “Okay, if you are making for yourself then make for me. Hold on I will make it for both of us.” This is an every morning conversation between us.

Here’s the recipe for SPICY TEA:

You Need: Water (500ml), SPICES: (Thumb Size Ginger piece, Two cloves, Five Black Pepper balls, Nail sized Cinnamon stick,) Half a spoon Indian Tea leaves. Half a Lemon, Sugar or Honey (your preference)

  1. Put the water in a pot, let it come to a boiling point.
  2. While the water reaches a boiling point crush the spices in a mortar.
  3. Add to the water and let it boil for about 4 minutes.
  4. Add Indian Tea leaves, boil for another 3 to 4 mins. Can be boiled more if you need it stronger. It’s is just to add colour. It can be done away with if you don’t desire Tea Leaves.
  5. Strain in a Cup. Add Honey/Sugar as desired (recommended quantity is half a teaspoon of Sugar, or One spoon of Honey) Can be done away with too.
  6. Squeeze your lemon.

You will learn your taste as you make. you can increase or decrease the spices accordingly.

TIP: if you so desire to add some milk, then do away with lemon and honey, just add sugar. In this case add the milk in the pot after the tea leaves, let it boil and then strain.

Making Tea is sacred. It is a conversation starter, opportunity to make friends, icebreaker, healer, and consoler. Don’t forget to make yourself my Spicy Tea and share your experience with me. I would love to have your favourite Tea, to accompany me in my writing adventures, do share your recipe with me as well.

“I don’t want tea,” said Clary, with muffled force. “I want to find my mother. And then I want to find out who took her in the first place, and I want to kill them.”

“Unfortunately,” said Hodge, “we’re all out of bitter revenge at the moment, so it’s either tea or nothing.”

Cassandra Clare, City of Bones